From ideals passed on through the generations to bold and coquettish inventions, beauty is a language that is constantly evolving. It includes the traditional and disruptive, cliched and orgasmic. It’s just the acceptance of the fact that we’re not consistent in our ideas about beauty and it’s pursuit. The problems begin when beauty takes on narrow definitions and we begin grooming ourselves to primarily please those we encounter. That is the Beast that begins to take over the beauty that lies in You, the beauty that makes You and the Beauty You believe in. And the different layers between who we are, what we present and how we process feedback wages a war with the Beast.
Even in this world of grooming, a little less judgement and little more compassion is what makes it beautiful!
Happiness is perhaps synchronizing one’s personal delusions of meaning with the prevailing collective illusions. As long as your personal narrative is in line with the narratives of the people around you, it’s convincing to believe that life is meaningful and happiness sought in that conviction. If happiness is based on the feeling that life is meaningful, then in order to be happier one needs to delude himself more effectively. And that delusion cannot not make its way through pleasure: that which can be easily seduced by Satan. Only to make believe that a sense of high is pleasure and any meaning that one ascribes to their lives is just a delusion that enshrouds in complete and meaningless oblivion!
Disruptive technology has got with it, disruptive communication. Phubbing is when phone takes precedence over live moments leaving us bereft of intimacy and physical experience. So the same technology that introduced us to the pool of social interactions is now responsible for our social exclusion affecting our sense of belonging and self esteem. Partners indulging with their phones are losing connectivity with each other. Relationships and the satisfaction you drew from their existence is becoming a victim of phone assault.
It’s about time we made laws for phone assault and the guilty tried for disrupting connectivity! And to avoid a sentence take charge or get charged!
That ‘One’ belies our fears. It encompasses the superiority of ability and strength which you draw on as you go along. What ordinarily gets missed out is the friendship with a strong bearing and the idea of sharing what you have, to feed on what you may never have had. It’s the acquaintance with partnership of a lifetime that does incapacitate you to stand alone and deal with your imperfection. And that fragility takes precedence over the will to survive.
That risk is always there to look you in the eye but when it does, will it be facing deflection or a loss of appetite!
Is the underlying that could crawl inside of you and feed on time. A facade that gradually builds on a social framework in a world where it’s important to see how it appears to be. The prowess is in thriving as a couple because of each one’s individuality, not despite it. Where each is home to the other in pursuit of their own passion and calling. A state of physical ease that marries individual interests to embark upon a quest of sorts. To enjoy someone you can’t be and might love to. To draw out pleasures from moments and insightful conversations you may otherwise have never had.
Let there be spaces in your togetherness. And stand together, yet not too near for anyone to miss the two separate hand prints that clear out from the mist of being a couple.
If said in the same breath, don’t sound like fooling around for one and infidelity for the other. It is just like seeking a legitimate alternative to infidelity which we can call the opposite of monogamy. Do open relationships then offer legitimacy to and by themselves. Whatever the case may be it is disruptive selection that defies adaptive evolution. Love finds its essence in stability and longevity not impetuosity. The inherent need to share that emotion makes us monogamous, the opposite of which is a proponent of mental chaos.
Then if monogamy is to social harmony, polygamy and polyandry is to civil war!